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Lately, I’ve been thinking about the balance between growth and stability — about how expansion only works when it’s built on a strong foundation.

For a long time, I focused on pushing forward, stretching myself, and constantly taking on new things. But there were times when it felt like I was walking on thin ice, trying to grow without realizing my foundation wasn’t strong enough to hold me.

It’s easy to get caught up in more — more learning, more relationships, more work, more experiences. But if we aren’t anchored in what truly sustains us, expansion can become overwhelming, leading to burnout instead of fulfillment.

So the question isn’t just, “Where do I need to grow?” but also, “What do I need to hold onto?”

Expansion vs. Containment

• Expansion is about growth — new experiences, pushing limits, stepping into new opportunities. It’s essential for evolution and fulfillment.
• Containment is about stability — holding space for what truly matters, maintaining what nourishes us, and protecting what we’ve built.

Both are necessary. Expansion without containment leads to chaos. Containment without expansion leads to stagnation.

We often admire people who constantly grow, but true success isn’t about how much we take on — it’s about how well we sustain it.

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The Power of Focus: You Only Get Three Energy Bursts a Day

In life, we assume we can accomplish so much in a single day. There are many hours, so naturally, we believe we can fill them with productivity.

But have you ever noticed that no matter how much time you have, your energy is the real limiting factor?

On any given day, we truly only have three high-energy bursts where we can focus deeply and get real work done.

If you wake up early and plan accordingly, you’ll notice that you only have three real opportunities to complete focused tasks. The rest of the day tends to get filled with maintenance, distractions, and lower-energy activities.

Try tracking your energy for a day — you’ll see this pattern unfold.

Instead of overwhelming yourself with an endless to-do list, prioritize your three most important tasks and schedule them during your peak focus times.

When we respect our energy, we actually get more done with far less stress.

Building Your Foundation First

Think of a tree. Its branches stretch high, reaching for the sky, but only because its roots are deep and strong. The deeper the roots, the taller the tree can grow.

So what keeps you grounded?

The things you must contain and protect before you expand:​
✔️ Your health (physical and emotional well-being)
✔️ Your close relationships (people who truly support you)
✔️ Your personal values and beliefs
✔️ Your energy and time (what truly deserves your attention)

When we neglect these, we might be growing, but it’s unstable growth — like building on shaky ground.

The Right Kind of Expansion

Once we have stability, expansion becomes purposeful instead of overwhelming. But not all expansion is beneficial. Some things drain us rather than elevate us.

Ask yourself:

• Is this expansion bringing me joy, or just keeping me busy?
• Am I growing in a way that aligns with my values, or am I following what others expect of me?
• Do I feel stretched in a healthy way, or am I feeling scattered and exhausted?

Expansion should add to your life, not take away from what truly matters.

I was reflecting on this recently when comparing my life to a friend’s. I love writing, editing, and detailed nuance — these things come naturally to me.

But going outside to play, explore, and just be in nature? That takes effort.

For me to experience true expansion, I need to prioritize what challenges me, not just what I already do well.

This is how real growth happens — not by staying in our comfort zones, but by stepping into the areas that stretch us.

Choosing Your Priorities for Growth

If we try to focus on everything at once, we focus on nothing.

So when choosing three short-term daily priorities, they can be simple — self-care, connection, productivity.

But long-term, to truly move the needle forward, focus on one personal goal, one relationship goal, and one life goal that will help you step into deeper fulfillment.

For example:
✔️ Personal Goal — Prioritizing movement, creativity, or self-development
✔️ Relationship Goal — Strengthening a connection, showing up more present
✔️ Life Goal — A bigger vision: career, purpose, impact

When you contain your focus, your expansion becomes sustainable.

Creating the Right Environment for Growth

Think about how we raise children. If a child is struggling, we often try to contain them — limit their environment, control their behavior.

But real growth doesn’t come from containment. It comes from creating an environment that supports full expression.

A child who feels safe and supported in their surroundings expands naturally. Because they know they have a foundation to return to, they can freely explore who they are.

This applies to us as adults too.

Where in your life are you stagnant, trying to fit into a space that no longer supports your expansion?
Where do you need more space to fully express yourself?

Sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is change the environment instead of trying to shrink ourselves to fit it.

Practical Steps to Balance Expansion & Containment

Assess Your Priorities

• Identify your top three priorities right now.
• Focus your time and energy on what moves the needle forward.

Protect What Grounds You

• Take care of your health, relationships, and values before you stretch yourself too thin.

Expand with Intention

• Say yes to things that add meaning.
• Say no to things that drain your energy.

Declutter Your Life

• Expansion isn’t about adding more — it’s about refining.
• Remove unnecessary commitments, toxic relationships, and distractions.

Celebrate the Balance

• Every time you grow while staying grounded, acknowledge that.
• Success isn’t just in the expansion — it’s in sustaining what you’ve built.

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Final Thought

True fulfillment comes from balancing growth with stability. The goal isn’t just to keep moving forward — it’s to move forward with purpose.

So this week, ask yourself:
✔️ Where in my life do I need expansion?​
✔️ What do I need to protect and contain first?​
✔️ How can I grow in a way that supports, rather than drains, me?

When we expand from a place of strength, growth becomes natural, sustainable, and deeply fulfilling.

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Let me know what resonated with you from this letter — I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Wishing you grounded expansion,
​Esther

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For more info about Esther

For Contact Esther@ujjayiinc.com

Esther Levy Dresdner

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